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In this video we explore how “containment” plays a crucial role in working with narcissistic behaviors. Through techniques like slowing down reactions, detoxifying aggression, and validating experiences without judgment, you can help loved ones see their own emotions more clearly. This approach fosters a (therapeutic) bond, allowing one to feel truly heard and understood, even […]

In this episode, we uncover how early relationships can deeply influence our view of others, often leading to unconscious projections that impact adult connections. Discover how psychodynamic therapy helps break these cycles, allowing clients to see others more clearly and build trust and understanding. This video clip is from episode 44 of The Narcissism Decode

In this video, we explore Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP) and its effectiveness in treating individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Learn how TFP helps patients gain insight into their distorted self-perceptions and interpersonal relationships by focusing on the dynamics between the patient and therapist, ultimately fostering emotional growth and healthier relationship patterns. This video clip is

In this video, Lisa and I explore how distorted introjects—caricature-like images of self and others—lead to disjointed self-experiences, especially for individuals with narcissistic traits. We discuss how these fragmented perceptions often result in extreme emotional responses, reliance on defense mechanisms like projection, and difficulties in integrating whole, complex views of others. Narcissistic individuals tend to

In this episode, we delve further into the concept of the “depressive position,” particularly in relation to individuals with narcissistic characteristics. We explore the importance of relinquishing a grandiose sense of self and facing limitations, as well as the distinction between depression and the depressive position. The conversation delves into the dynamics of relationships, the

In this video, we explore the controversial topic of re-traumatization in therapy for individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Discover how certain therapeutic approaches may intentionally trigger unresolved trauma, exacerbating emotional instability. We’ll discuss the risks and challenges of these methods, shedding light on the complexities of treating NPD while aiming to foster healing and

In this episode, we delve into the concept of the “depressive position,” emphasizing the importance of recognizing and accepting loss in order to move forward in life. We explore the challenges faced by individuals with narcissistic traits in accepting differing perspectives and the emotional turmoil that can arise from this. The conversation highlights the developmental

In this video, we continue our discussion of the projection-introjection cycle, focusing on how individuals with narcissistic tendencies project their negative introjects onto others, leading them to view people as dangerous or untrustworthy. This projection distorts their perception of relationships, creating a cycle of hostile responses. We explore how, instead of seeing a ‘new person,’

In this discussion, Dr. Anthony Mazzella is responding to a question about the concept of splitting, a phenomenon common in both narcissistic and borderline personality disorders. He explains that splitting involves a rapid shift from idealizing to devaluing a partner, often triggered by perceived slights or disappointments during emotionally charged situations. This behavior stems from

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of feeling ‘stuck’ in life, particularly through the lens of depression linked to narcissistic caregivers. We look at some complicated concepts, such as the depressive position and pathological organizations, explaining how these psychological frameworks can help individuals understand their emotional struggles. The discussion emphasizes the importance of