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Psychotherapist And Psychoanalyst In New York City With Close To 20 Years Of Experience.

Anthony Mazzella, Ph.D., is a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist in private practice on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. He is a training analyst and full member at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Training & Research (IPTAR), as well as being a current member of The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA). Membership in the IPA is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most rigorous and recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training in the world. Dr. Mazzella is both a Fellow of the IPA and at IPTAR. Dr. Mazzella is on faculty and is a supervisor at IPTAR and the Metropolitan Institute for Training in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy (MITPP). He is also recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education.

“My mission is to build a trusting relationship that will allow you to gain insight into your inner life and behaviors so you can make more deliberate choices and therefore lead a more fulfilling life…”

- Dr. Mazzella

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Welcome to the Narcissism Decoder, where we dive into the intriguing world of narcissism! These videos are the perfect solution for those who want to grasp the essence of narcissistic dynamics without committing to a longer podcast episode. Join me on this journey as we decode narcissism together!

In this video, we'll break down the real difference between narcissism and gaslighting. Learn how to spot the signs and protect yourself from toxic behavior.

we'll delve into the real difference between narcissism and gaslighting. Learn how to identify and understand these toxic behaviors!

Confused about the difference between narcissism and gaslighting? Watch this video to learn the real distinction between the two behaviors.

✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

✅ Important Links: 

👉 Website: https://www.drmazzella.com/
👉 For consultation or seeking virtual therapy services please visit: https://www.drmazzella.com/contact/
👉 To listen to Dr. Mazzella’s podcast please click here: https://www.drmazzella.com/the-narcissism-decoder-podcast/

✅  Stay Connected With Me: 

👉 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-mazzella-ph-d-53289431/
👉 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/
👉 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder
👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenarcissismdecoder

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✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching: 

👉 Facing Hidden Truths: The Journey to Understand Her Family's Imperfections | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHaD1SaSwkk

👉 A Daughter's Search for Support: Unraveling Hidden Maternal Critique | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5CQxuLRYc4

👉 Exposing Covert Narcissism: Dr. Mazzella's Insights - The Hidden Truths - Part 1 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk25z9Y5Jv0

👉 Dr. Mazzella's Deep Dive into Covert Narcissism: The Hidden Truths Revealed: Part 2 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhOBoAnbr3A 

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✅  About The Narcissism Decoder: 

Welcome to the Narcissism Decoder, where we dive into the intriguing world of narcissism! While my podcast provides an in-depth exploration of various aspects of narcissistic dynamics, I have something extra special for you on YouTube.

Unlike my podcast, these videos are short, snappy, and designed for the fast-paced world. I may not go as deep as my podcast episodes, but I make up for it with a more dynamic and visually appealing approach. It's the perfect solution for those who want to grasp the essence of narcissistic dynamics without committing to a longer podcast episode.

Join me on this journey as we decode narcissism together. Subscribe now, and let's unravel the fascinating world of narcissism in a way that suits your preference - concise, captivating, and always insightful.

For Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:

📩  Email: thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1
 
=====================

DISCLAIMER ALERT: The Narcissism Decoder podcast is provided for general information purposes only. The content presented in this Podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any psychological condition related to narcissism. The content on this Podcast should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding a mental health concern. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have seen or heard in this video. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately. Reliance on any information provided in this video is solely at your own risk. The creators and producers of this video do not assume any responsibility or liability for any injury, damage, or adverse effects caused by the use of the information contained herein.
Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use

© The Narcissism Decoder

In this video, we'll break down the real difference between narcissism and gaslighting. Learn how to spot the signs and protect yourself from toxic behavior.

we'll delve into the real difference between narcissism and gaslighting. Learn how to identify and understand these toxic behaviors!

Confused about the difference between narcissism and gaslighting? Watch this video to learn the real distinction between the two behaviors.

✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

✅ Important Links:

👉 Website: https://www.drmazzella.com/
👉 For consultation or seeking virtual therapy services please visit: https://www.drmazzella.com/contact/
👉 To listen to Dr. Mazzella’s podcast please click here: https://www.drmazzella.com/the-narcissism-decoder-podcast/

✅ Stay Connected With Me:

👉 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-mazzella-ph-d-53289431/
👉 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/
👉 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder
👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenarcissismdecoder

==============================

✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching:

👉 Facing Hidden Truths: The Journey to Understand Her Family's Imperfections | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHaD1SaSwkk

👉 A Daughter's Search for Support: Unraveling Hidden Maternal Critique | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5CQxuLRYc4

👉 Exposing Covert Narcissism: Dr. Mazzella's Insights - The Hidden Truths - Part 1 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk25z9Y5Jv0

👉 Dr. Mazzella's Deep Dive into Covert Narcissism: The Hidden Truths Revealed: Part 2 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhOBoAnbr3A

=============================

✅ About The Narcissism Decoder:

Welcome to the Narcissism Decoder, where we dive into the intriguing world of narcissism! While my podcast provides an in-depth exploration of various aspects of narcissistic dynamics, I have something extra special for you on YouTube.

Unlike my podcast, these videos are short, snappy, and designed for the fast-paced world. I may not go as deep as my podcast episodes, but I make up for it with a more dynamic and visually appealing approach. It's the perfect solution for those who want to grasp the essence of narcissistic dynamics without committing to a longer podcast episode.

Join me on this journey as we decode narcissism together. Subscribe now, and let's unravel the fascinating world of narcissism in a way that suits your preference - concise, captivating, and always insightful.

For Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:

📩 Email: thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

=====================

DISCLAIMER ALERT: The Narcissism Decoder podcast is provided for general information purposes only. The content presented in this Podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any psychological condition related to narcissism. The content on this Podcast should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding a mental health concern. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have seen or heard in this video. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately. Reliance on any information provided in this video is solely at your own risk. The creators and producers of this video do not assume any responsibility or liability for any injury, damage, or adverse effects caused by the use of the information contained herein.
Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use

© The Narcissism Decoder

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Narcissism vs Gaslighting: What's The REAL Difference

The Narcissism Decoder January 25, 2026 9:00 am

In this conversation on The Narcissism Dakota, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores a question many clinicians and loved ones ask: Why do some people with narcissistic patterns actually seek treatment?

This episode examines how narcissistic defenses—particularly grandiosity—can only hold reality at bay for so long. When relationships, careers, or family bonds begin to fracture, the grandiose structure collapses, forcing a confrontation with reality. For some, this “bottoming out” becomes the moment where change feels necessary, not optional.

Dr. Mazzella also clarifies the spectrum of narcissism, distinguishing everyday narcissistic traits from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and explains how different narcissistic presentations—from vulnerable and covert to malignant—attempt to repair a fragile sense of self in very different ways.

This discussion offers a nuanced, clinical perspective on narcissistic collapse, motivation for treatment, and why intimacy is often where narcissistic patterns become most visible.

✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

✅ Important Links: 

👉 Website: https://www.drmazzella.com/
👉 For consultation or seeking virtual therapy services please visit: https://www.drmazzella.com/contact/
👉 To listen to Dr. Mazzella’s podcast please click here: https://www.drmazzella.com/the-narcissism-decoder-podcast/

✅  Stay Connected With Me: 

👉 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-mazzella-ph-d-53289431/
👉 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/
👉 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder
👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenarcissismdecoder

==============================

✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching: 

👉 Facing Hidden Truths: The Journey to Understand Her Family's Imperfections | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHaD1SaSwkk

👉 A Daughter's Search for Support: Unraveling Hidden Maternal Critique | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5CQxuLRYc4

👉 Exposing Covert Narcissism: Dr. Mazzella's Insights - The Hidden Truths - Part 1 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk25z9Y5Jv0

👉 Dr. Mazzella's Deep Dive into Covert Narcissism: The Hidden Truths Revealed: Part 2 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhOBoAnbr3A 

=============================

✅  About The Narcissism Decoder: 

Welcome to the Narcissism Decoder, where we dive into the intriguing world of narcissism! While my podcast provides an in-depth exploration of various aspects of narcissistic dynamics, I have something extra special for you on YouTube.

Unlike my podcast, these videos are short, snappy, and designed for the fast-paced world. I may not go as deep as my podcast episodes, but I make up for it with a more dynamic and visually appealing approach. It's the perfect solution for those who want to grasp the essence of narcissistic dynamics without committing to a longer podcast episode.

Join me on this journey as we decode narcissism together. Subscribe now, and let's unravel the fascinating world of narcissism in a way that suits your preference - concise, captivating, and always insightful.

For Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:

📩  Email: thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1
 
=====================

DISCLAIMER ALERT: The Narcissism Decoder podcast is provided for general information purposes only. The content presented in this Podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any psychological condition related to narcissism. The content on this Podcast should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding a mental health concern. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have seen or heard in this video. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately. Reliance on any information provided in this video is solely at your own risk. The creators and producers of this video do not assume any responsibility or liability for any injury, damage, or adverse effects caused by the use of the information contained herein.
Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use

© The Narcissism Decoder

In this conversation on The Narcissism Dakota, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores a question many clinicians and loved ones ask: Why do some people with narcissistic patterns actually seek treatment?

This episode examines how narcissistic defenses—particularly grandiosity—can only hold reality at bay for so long. When relationships, careers, or family bonds begin to fracture, the grandiose structure collapses, forcing a confrontation with reality. For some, this “bottoming out” becomes the moment where change feels necessary, not optional.

Dr. Mazzella also clarifies the spectrum of narcissism, distinguishing everyday narcissistic traits from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and explains how different narcissistic presentations—from vulnerable and covert to malignant—attempt to repair a fragile sense of self in very different ways.

This discussion offers a nuanced, clinical perspective on narcissistic collapse, motivation for treatment, and why intimacy is often where narcissistic patterns become most visible.

✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

✅ Important Links:

👉 Website: https://www.drmazzella.com/
👉 For consultation or seeking virtual therapy services please visit: https://www.drmazzella.com/contact/
👉 To listen to Dr. Mazzella’s podcast please click here: https://www.drmazzella.com/the-narcissism-decoder-podcast/

✅ Stay Connected With Me:

👉 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-mazzella-ph-d-53289431/
👉 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/
👉 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder
👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenarcissismdecoder

==============================

✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching:

👉 Facing Hidden Truths: The Journey to Understand Her Family's Imperfections | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHaD1SaSwkk

👉 A Daughter's Search for Support: Unraveling Hidden Maternal Critique | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5CQxuLRYc4

👉 Exposing Covert Narcissism: Dr. Mazzella's Insights - The Hidden Truths - Part 1 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk25z9Y5Jv0

👉 Dr. Mazzella's Deep Dive into Covert Narcissism: The Hidden Truths Revealed: Part 2 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhOBoAnbr3A

=============================

✅ About The Narcissism Decoder:

Welcome to the Narcissism Decoder, where we dive into the intriguing world of narcissism! While my podcast provides an in-depth exploration of various aspects of narcissistic dynamics, I have something extra special for you on YouTube.

Unlike my podcast, these videos are short, snappy, and designed for the fast-paced world. I may not go as deep as my podcast episodes, but I make up for it with a more dynamic and visually appealing approach. It's the perfect solution for those who want to grasp the essence of narcissistic dynamics without committing to a longer podcast episode.

Join me on this journey as we decode narcissism together. Subscribe now, and let's unravel the fascinating world of narcissism in a way that suits your preference - concise, captivating, and always insightful.

For Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:

📩 Email: thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

=====================

DISCLAIMER ALERT: The Narcissism Decoder podcast is provided for general information purposes only. The content presented in this Podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any psychological condition related to narcissism. The content on this Podcast should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding a mental health concern. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have seen or heard in this video. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately. Reliance on any information provided in this video is solely at your own risk. The creators and producers of this video do not assume any responsibility or liability for any injury, damage, or adverse effects caused by the use of the information contained herein.
Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use

© The Narcissism Decoder

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When Narcissism Meets Reality

The Narcissism Decoder January 18, 2026 9:00 am

In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella shows how insight transforms destructive cycles. When a person sees that their loved one’s independence isn’t an attack, guilt begins to replace rage, and remorse replaces retaliation. This shift marks the beginning of emotional repair — and the end of the fantasy that control equals love.
✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

✅ Important Links: 

👉 Website: https://www.drmazzella.com/
👉 For consultation or seeking virtual therapy services please visit: https://www.drmazzella.com/contact/
👉 To listen to Dr. Mazzella’s podcast please click here: https://www.drmazzella.com/the-narcissism-decoder-podcast/

✅  Stay Connected With Me: 

👉 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-mazzella-ph-d-53289431/
👉 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/
👉 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder
👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenarcissismdecoder

==============================

✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching: 

👉 Facing Hidden Truths: The Journey to Understand Her Family's Imperfections | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHaD1SaSwkk

👉 A Daughter's Search for Support: Unraveling Hidden Maternal Critique | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5CQxuLRYc4

👉 Exposing Covert Narcissism: Dr. Mazzella's Insights - The Hidden Truths - Part 1 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk25z9Y5Jv0

👉 Dr. Mazzella's Deep Dive into Covert Narcissism: The Hidden Truths Revealed: Part 2 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhOBoAnbr3A 

=============================

✅  About The Narcissism Decoder: 

Welcome to the Narcissism Decoder, where we dive into the intriguing world of narcissism! While my podcast provides an in-depth exploration of various aspects of narcissistic dynamics, I have something extra special for you on YouTube.

Unlike my podcast, these videos are short, snappy, and designed for the fast-paced world. I may not go as deep as my podcast episodes, but I make up for it with a more dynamic and visually appealing approach. It's the perfect solution for those who want to grasp the essence of narcissistic dynamics without committing to a longer podcast episode.

Join me on this journey as we decode narcissism together. Subscribe now, and let's unravel the fascinating world of narcissism in a way that suits your preference - concise, captivating, and always insightful.

For Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:

📩  Email: thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1
 
=====================

DISCLAIMER ALERT: The Narcissism Decoder podcast is provided for general information purposes only. The content presented in this Podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any psychological condition related to narcissism. The content on this Podcast should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding a mental health concern. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have seen or heard in this video. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately. Reliance on any information provided in this video is solely at your own risk. The creators and producers of this video do not assume any responsibility or liability for any injury, damage, or adverse effects caused by the use of the information contained herein.
Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use

© The Narcissism Decoder

In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella shows how insight transforms destructive cycles. When a person sees that their loved one’s independence isn’t an attack, guilt begins to replace rage, and remorse replaces retaliation. This shift marks the beginning of emotional repair — and the end of the fantasy that control equals love.
✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

✅ Important Links:

👉 Website: https://www.drmazzella.com/
👉 For consultation or seeking virtual therapy services please visit: https://www.drmazzella.com/contact/
👉 To listen to Dr. Mazzella’s podcast please click here: https://www.drmazzella.com/the-narcissism-decoder-podcast/

✅ Stay Connected With Me:

👉 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-mazzella-ph-d-53289431/
👉 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/
👉 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder
👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenarcissismdecoder

==============================

✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching:

👉 Facing Hidden Truths: The Journey to Understand Her Family's Imperfections | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHaD1SaSwkk

👉 A Daughter's Search for Support: Unraveling Hidden Maternal Critique | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5CQxuLRYc4

👉 Exposing Covert Narcissism: Dr. Mazzella's Insights - The Hidden Truths - Part 1 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk25z9Y5Jv0

👉 Dr. Mazzella's Deep Dive into Covert Narcissism: The Hidden Truths Revealed: Part 2 | Drmazzella.com
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhOBoAnbr3A

=============================

✅ About The Narcissism Decoder:

Welcome to the Narcissism Decoder, where we dive into the intriguing world of narcissism! While my podcast provides an in-depth exploration of various aspects of narcissistic dynamics, I have something extra special for you on YouTube.

Unlike my podcast, these videos are short, snappy, and designed for the fast-paced world. I may not go as deep as my podcast episodes, but I make up for it with a more dynamic and visually appealing approach. It's the perfect solution for those who want to grasp the essence of narcissistic dynamics without committing to a longer podcast episode.

Join me on this journey as we decode narcissism together. Subscribe now, and let's unravel the fascinating world of narcissism in a way that suits your preference - concise, captivating, and always insightful.

For Collaboration and Business inquiries, please use the contact information below:

📩 Email: thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more videos: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder/?sub_confirmation=1

=====================

DISCLAIMER ALERT: The Narcissism Decoder podcast is provided for general information purposes only. The content presented in this Podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any psychological condition related to narcissism. The content on this Podcast should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding a mental health concern. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have seen or heard in this video. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately. Reliance on any information provided in this video is solely at your own risk. The creators and producers of this video do not assume any responsibility or liability for any injury, damage, or adverse effects caused by the use of the information contained herein.
Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use

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Dr. Mazzella is an NYC-based psychotherapist and psychoanalyst with over 20 years of clinical experience. He trained at the renowned Institute for Psychoanalytic Training and Research (IPTAR) with continued involvement with the organization to this day. He believes psychodynamic therapy to be an essential component of psychological work, benefiting individuals from all walks of life.

Dr. Mazzella believes that psychodynamic psychotherapy is effective for those dealing with overwhelming emotions. One of the benefits of his approach is that it helps to create a safe and trusting relationship, which is particularly helpful for learning new coping skills and strategies to manage your problems. By exploring your thoughts and feelings, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of what might be causing your problems. As you work through these emotions in a supported environment, you’ll feel more able to tackle them on your own.

Dr. Mazzella works with a wide range of individuals (e.g., adolescents, adults, and couples) to address a variety of emotional difficulties, such as interpersonal problems, self-esteem issues, depression, anxiety, and personality disorders. Dr. Mazzella’s approach focuses on insight-oriented psychodynamic therapy, emphasizing exploration of past and present experiences. For a deeper understanding of how Dr. Mazzella thinks about psychology and works with his patients, please click on any of his latest articles below.

If you’re looking for a compassionate and skilled therapist to help you navigate life’s challenges, please contact Dr. Anthony Mazzella. His years of experience and superb training have equipped him to be a leading psychotherapist and psychoanalyst.

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Areas of Expertise

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DEPRESSION

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STRESS
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Navigating Relationships with Borderline and Narcissistic Traits

Borderline and narcissistic patterns can create intense, unpredictable dynamics in relationships, but they operate very differently beneath the surface. While narcissistic behaviors often retreat from emotional dependence to protect self-esteem, borderline behaviors push toward connection, sometimes urgently, in an attempt ...
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What are the Red Flags That You’re In a Narcissistic Relationship?

In relationships shaped by borderline dynamics or narcissism, ordinary interactions can quickly become emotionally overwhelming. Conversations escalate, misunderstandings feel catastrophic, and conflict repeats in ways that leave people confused about what just happened and why it felt so intense. What ...
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Making Sense of Emotional Storms and Ruptures

Dr. Anthony Mazzella offers a framework for understanding emotional chaos, recurring ruptures, and the overwhelming conviction of abandonment. These experiences are explored not as isolated reactions, but as expressions of deeper structural vulnerabilities in emotional regulation.
🎧 Podcast: The Narcissism Decoder
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When Stress Overrides Reflection

This discussion highlights what happens when emotional stress rises and soothing is unavailable. For some individuals with borderline organization, reflective capacity collapses into immediate action, shifting relationships from thoughtful engagement to urgent, literal interaction.
🎧 Podcast: The Narcissism Decoder
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Guidance and Balance in Relationships

Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Gordon emphasize mature, balanced perspectives when navigating complex relationships. Knowing your options, seeking professional insight, and reflecting on your own needs are essential steps toward emotional clarity.
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🎧 Podcast: The Narcissism Decoder

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Vulnerability and Healing in Focus

Dr. Mazzella and Gordon plan a follow-up discussion on what makes someone vulnerable in challenging relationships, how narcissistic dynamics impact identity, and the steps toward healing. Don’t miss the next conversation.
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🎧 Podcast: The Narcissism Decoder

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