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In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, Dr. Anthony Mazzella unpacks a painful paradox at the heart of healing narcissism: the very desire to be seen often collides with the terror of being exposed. Through a powerful clinical example, he explores how early wounds of shame, unmet needs, and impossible standards create a narcissistic bind—where […]

In this revealing video, top psychologist Dr. Anthony Mazzella discusses the shocking truth about grandiose self and the impact it can have on your mental health. Learn more about psychodynamic therapy and psychoanalysis from an expert in the field. In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores what happens after the illusion

When narcissistically inclined individuals act out of guilt, it can be hard to differentiate between reparative action and self-protection. In this episode, we discuss how Frank’s attempt to offer the delivery woman a drink could have been an effort to repair or a way to restore his own self-image after a moment of rage. 👉

Frank’s story about waiting for his grocery delivery shows how quickly guilt can spiral into shame. In this episode, we explore how negative self-talk can lead to feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing, shifting the focus from the behavior to the identity. 👉 Have you noticed when guilt turns into self-directed shame in your own experiences?

In this episode, we dive deeper into the distinction between guilt and shame. While guilt involves feeling bad about something you did and wanting to make it right, shame makes you feel like you are bad, which often leads to self-blame and isolation. Understanding this difference is key to emotional healing. 👉 Have you ever

What happens when someone realizes they may never be as exceptional as they imagined? In this powerful episode, we explore what it looks like when narcissistic grandiosity crumbles—not with rage, but with grief. Through careful, compassionate containment, we uncover what it really means to feel ordinary, and still matter. ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For

In today’s episode, we explore the concept of “pushing away” difficult truths and how it only creates more problems in the long run. Whether it’s infertility, toxic relationships, or loss, avoiding these challenges doesn’t make them go away. Mindfulness and integration are key to facing painful realities and building a life that embraces the full

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What does real transformation look like beneath the grandiose shell? This episode takes you deep into the emotional layers of narcissistic healing—not just the behavior, but the deeper shifts in identity and defense. Through powerful clinical examples, we explore how grandiosity hides profound shame, and how slow, reflective work helps build a more authentic self.

Ever notice how someone shifts from discomfort to cheerfulness too quickly? In this episode, Dr. Mazzella shares how avoiding difficult emotions—like disagreement or discomfort—can mask deeper narcissistic defenses. A compliment, a memory, or even a fight can become a defense against vulnerability. Mindfulness and containment become vital tools to spot these patterns and gently bring