Why do we keep secrets — and what do they actually reveal about the inner world? In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores secrecy from a psychodynamic perspective. Rather than viewing secrets as purely moral failures or acts of manipulation, this discussion examines how secrecy is often tied to shame regulation, […]
The True Self vs. The False Self: What’s Really Going On? Read More »
In this clip from The Narcissism Decoder Podcast, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores a powerful metaphor shared by his guest: learning to offer yourself the care, stability, and emotional holding you once sought from others. Healing here is not about isolation—it’s about developing an internal sense of safety and self-support. This conversation highlights how self-compassion becomes
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This clip reveals how early family dynamics can train someone to survive through compliance, obedience, and emotional self-erasure. Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores how real experiences of abandonment shape a nervous system that prioritizes keeping the system stable at all costs—even when it means silencing the self. In adulthood, this survival strategy can quietly recreate itself
Why trauma bonds form (can you see how this will rank and let me know)? Read More »
This clip explores how vulnerability isn’t about weakness, but about timing, loss, identity shifts, and emotional exhaustion. Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Dr. Kerry unpack how grief, burnout, and unmet emotional needs can quietly shape who we feel drawn to—often before we realize it. The conversation highlights how charm, certainty, and “being chosen” can feel stabilizing
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Dr. Anthony Mazzella dives into the psychodynamic functions of anger and hatred in borderline and narcissistic organization. Learn how these intense emotions aren’t just destructive—they can stabilize the self, maintain attachment, and communicate deeper emotional needs. In borderline organization, anger often erupts immediately and feels fully acceptable (ego syntonic), tied to fear of abandonment and
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Dr. Anthony Mazzella takes you inside the thinking process for his course on borderline and narcissistic personality organizations. Learn how emotional intensity, literal vs. symbolic thinking, and object constancy shape inner experiences and relationships. This episode explores how rage in borderline organization often protests perceived abandonment, while narcissistic rage reacts to shame or humiliation. Understanding
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