Narcissists, driven by an underlying fear of dependency, recoil from the notion of relying on others. The prospect of dependence implies an acknowledgment of the value of the other person, coupled with an anticipation of inevitable frustrations and their consequences. This fear is deeply rooted in early childhood experiences, where disappointments and absences can create a perception that the caregiver is withholding comfort, leading to destructive fantasies and impulses. This aspect is critical to understand when relating to these individuals: the fear is not merely a response to deprivation but the delayed gratification is perceived as an attack, invoking a necessity for a counter-attack. Additionally, the recognition of the goodness in others can stimulate envy, further complicating the narcissist's struggle with dependency. If you or someone you know is experiencing painful and dissatisfying relationships and would like to learn more about effective treatment methods, please feel free to contact me directly or be sure to check out my podcast or my Narcissism Decoder video channel.