Podcasts

In this episode, we take a deeper look at a common misunderstanding about borderline personality organization: that the core struggle is simply a fear of abandonment. Drawing on the work […]

This is another consolidation episode based on clinical work with a patient who recognized that he organizes his relationships around anticipated disappointment. When things are going well, he becomes anxious […]

Have you ever been with someone who seems present, even engaged, yet remains strangely out of reach? Or have you noticed yourself pulling back into a private inner world when […]

In this episode — the third in our new Consolidation Series — I respond directly to a listener’s question about secrets and confession. What actually happens psychologically when someone admits […]

In this episode, we turn to what often emerges when confusion finally begins to lift – anger at the covert narcissistic parent! For many people who grew up with a […]

In this episode — the first in a new “Consolidation Series” — I begin responding directly to your questions and thoughtful observations. If everyone wants to feel understood, what makes […]

In this episode, Part 1 of a 2 part series, we slow things down and look closely at the subtle moments that leave you feeling unsettled after talking to a […]

Why does healing sometimes feel worse than staying in emotional chaos? In this episode, we explore borderline attachment from a psychodynamic perspective, focusing on why calm, stability, and “getting better” […]

In this episode we continue our discussion of secrets as we explore what they protect psychologically—and what they quietly destroy. Through a psychodynamic lens, this episode examines how secrets form […]

In this episode, we explore another way of thinking about borderline organization. We look at a provocative idea: that borderline intensity and narcissistic control aren’t opposites, but two different solutions […]