The Narcissism Decoder Podcast

The Narcissism Decoder is a podcast that takes a comprehensive look at various facets of narcissism. The goal is to provide stellar educational content and clinical examples on mental health issues related to narcissistic personality disorder. This podcast focuses on specific aspects of narcissism, including its origins and everyday manifestations. In every episode, different psychoanalytic frameworks are explored as we unravel the complexities that lie beneath the surface of this label. I am on a mission to share my knowledge to help you gain profound insights into narcissism, navigate its complexities, and foster personal growth and understanding. If you listen to each episode, you will enhance your understanding of this complex structure.

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Please tune in for a blend of compassionate insights, expert guidance, and compelling narratives that will reshape your perspective on narcissism.

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Deborah part 2 Is Narcissistic Gaslighting Always Intentional (1)

Is Narcissistic Gaslighting Always Intentional—or Sometimes Unconscious?| Epi 112

In this episode, we continue our conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse to explore one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic relationships—gaslighting. We look at how gaslighting isn’t always as clear-cut as it seems. Sometimes it’s deliberate and controlling, but other times it reflects someone trapped in their own distorted reality, unable to see beyond their perspective. We also talk about how, at times, it’s possible to “sneak around” narcissistic defenses and create small openings for something more authentic to emerge.

Deborah Part 1 Can Someone with Narcissism Truly Change

Can Someone with Narcissism Truly Change—and Heal from Within? | Epi 111

In this episode, we join a conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse right at the moment she expresses surprise that people actually come to therapy identifying as narcissistic—because self-reflection is the very thing they resist. From there, we explore what happens when the illusion of the grandiose self begins to crack, when the fantasies that hold the self together collapse under reality.

3 Steps to Protect Yourself in a Narcissistic Relationship – Part 2 | Episode 110

In this episode, we break down 3 powerful steps to protect yourself from narcissistic manipulation — even when no contact isn’t possible. You’ll learn how to recognize their defenses, stop absorbing their projections, and reclaim your power without losing your sense of self.

8 Red Flags of Narcissism in Relationships: Overt vs Covert Narcissism – Part 1 | Episode 109

Ever feel drained, confused, or like you don’t even exist in a relationship? You might be interacting with a narcissist—overt or covert—and not even realize it. In this episode, we will explore how to spot the red flags and understand the psychological defenses driving these behaviors. It’s time to reclaim your clarity, your power, and your peace of mind.

Am I a Narcissist? The Hidden Patterns Behind the Label – Part 2 | Episode 108

In this episode, we uncover how covert narcissism can quietly hijack your choices. What happens when a parent’s tears, guilt, or subtle manipulations make independence feel like betrayal? Through a powerful clinical example, we reveal the hidden inner logic that keeps adult children bound to their parent’s needs—and why separating isn’t just about moving out, but breaking free on an inner level.

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