The Narcissism Decoder Podcast

The Narcissism Decoder is a podcast that takes a comprehensive look at various facets of narcissism. The goal is to provide stellar educational content and clinical examples on mental health issues related to narcissistic personality disorder. This podcast focuses on specific aspects of narcissism, including its origins and everyday manifestations. In every episode, different psychoanalytic frameworks are explored as we unravel the complexities that lie beneath the surface of this label. I am on a mission to share my knowledge to help you gain profound insights into narcissism, navigate its complexities, and foster personal growth and understanding. If you listen to each episode, you will enhance your understanding of this complex structure.

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Please tune in for a blend of compassionate insights, expert guidance, and compelling narratives that will reshape your perspective on narcissism.

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I Know Why I Get Angry and Defensive—So Why Can’t I Stop?

In this episode, we look at the painful moment so many of us know too well: when you understand why you get angry, defensive, or shut down—and yet, you still do it. We examine this problem through the lens of one man’s story about a frustrating moment that spirals into rage and self-loathing. But understanding this isn’t the most important thing. We tackle the real question: what actually helps when knowing yourself isn’t enough? If you’ve ever found yourself caught in a loop—knowing better, but still hurting yourself or someone else—this episode will meet you there.

I Know It’s Small… So Why Does It Hurt So Much?

Why do small letdowns—like a late reply or a minor change of plans—sometimes feel like a gut punch? This episode unpacks how everyday disappointments can stir up deep feelings of shame, rooted in early relational wounds. It’s not about the delay itself—it’s about what it awakens in you. If you've ever felt "too sensitive" or overreactive in relationships, this might be the real reason why.

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Why do toxic relationships feel impossible to leave? In this episode, Dr. Nae and I explore trauma bonds—how narcissistic abuse uses love bombing, control, and betrayal to trap partners. We reveal why hope for change keeps the cycle alive and what true healing looks like: creating a safe space for empowerment and growth. If toxic love has you stuck, this episode offers real insight and hope.

How Mindfulness and Psychodynamic Therapy Can Change Your Life

What if the real challenge in healing from narcissism isn’t just the big moments, but the subtle, often invisible patterns shaping your relationships and inner world? In this episode, Lindsey Miller and I reveal how narcissistic dynamics quietly influence parenting, emotional containment, and self-awareness. If you want to uncover what’s beneath the surface and start creating lasting change, this conversation is a must-listen.

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