The Narcissism Decoder Podcast

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The Narcissism Decoder Podcast

The Narcissism Decoder is a podcast that takes a comprehensive look at various facets of narcissism. The goal is to provide stellar educational content and clinical examples on mental health issues related to narcissistic personality disorder.  This podcast focuses on specific aspects of narcissism, including its origins and everyday manifestations. In every episode, different psychoanalytic frameworks are explored as we unravel the complexities that lie beneath the surface of this label.  I am on a mission to share my knowledge to help you gain profound insights into narcissism, navigate its complexities, and foster personal growth and understanding. If you listen to each episode, you will enhance your understanding of this complex structure.

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Please tune in for a blend of compassionate insights, expert guidance, and compelling narratives that will reshape your perspective on narcissism.

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Can a narcissist actually change? (Recorded Interview)

In this episode, you’ll hear another powerful clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love. We explore two of the most frequently asked questions about narcissistic relationships: Can a narcissist truly change—and how can you tell if it’s even possible? We discuss what real change looks like beyond the surface-level promises and gestures, and why it’s so difficult to know whether to stay or go. If this conversation speaks to you, stay tuned—I'll be sharing another clip soon.

From Codependency to Interdependence (Recorded Interview)

In this conversation, Valerie Greene discusses the concept of codependency, contrasting it with interdependence. She explains how codependency is rooted in childhood experiences and emotional neglect, leading individuals to prioritize others' needs over their own. The discussion delves into the impact of these dynamics on relationships and through personal anecdotes Valerie demonstrates the importance of healthy communication and differentiation. She also shares personal insights and strategies for healing codependency, highlighting the need for collaboration and self-awareness in relationships. We examine how healthy boundaries and collaboration enable deeper connections.

How to Tell If You’re With a Narcissist (Recorded Interview)

In this episode, I share a clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love, where we explore two of the biggest questions people ask about narcissistic relationships: how to recognize if your partner is on the narcissistic spectrum, and why these relationships are so painfully hard to break free from. We get into the difference between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, the fantasy that keeps people stuck, and the deeper emotional wounds that often drive these dynamics. Curious for more? I’ll be sharing another clip next week—or you can check out the full interview now via the link below.

Mastering Negotiation with Narcissists (Recorded Interview)

In this conversation, I sit down with Rebecca Zung, an expert in negotiating with narcissists. We discuss the complexities of negotiation when dealing with individuals who exhibit narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, understanding the dynamics of narcissistic behavior, and the need for strategic documentation to leverage situations effectively. The discussion also introduces the SLAY method, which stands for Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You, as a framework for successful negotiation. Through real-life examples and practical advice, Rebecca provides insights into how to navigate challenging relationships with narcissists.

Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse (Recorded Interview)

In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Jin explore the cult-like dynamics of narcissistic relationships and the profound psychological toll they take on victims. They discuss how survivors often struggle with a loss of identity, the lingering internalized critical voice of the narcissist, and the complex grieving process that follows. Jin sheds light on the role of trauma bonding in keeping victims trapped and outlines essential steps for reclaiming one’s voice and sense of self. The conversation underscores the importance of community support, the unique challenges therapists face in treating survivors, and the hope that exists beyond narcissistic abuse.

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